Teenage is a transition between childhood and adulthood when changes take place both in mind and body. A teenager will no longer be romping around. Someone who till now was least bothered about his/her behavior becomes conscious and this is the first stress that makes its presence - the awareness of being noticed. And this is just the beginning.
Soon the parents will expect their teenager to become independent in taking care of his/her daily routines which hitherto was the responsibility of the parents. Coping with life and the environment around with no props is sure a situation that can bring about tremendous stress for someone who had no care in the world.
Soon the parents will expect their teenager to become independent in taking care of his/her daily routines which hitherto was the responsibility of the parents. Coping with life and the environment around with no props is sure a situation that can bring about tremendous stress for someone who had no care in the world.Some teenagers just refuse to grow up and that becomes a struggle of the 'to be or not to be' kind leading to psychiatric counseling. What appeared to be a life with gay abandon is now laden with responsibilities which some shoulders are not ready to bear.
Withdrawal is the most common symptom and this is the time when one develops complexes, living in a fool's paradise or a fantasy world are all symptoms of stress that a teenager manifests. Day dreaming is yet another symptom which stops them from performing well in school/college.
You will find them spending a lot of time in front of the mirror, and even in the bathroom.
They will feel awkward going out with their parents and seek the company of the opposite sex.
In the process of this changed behavior its fine if all goes well but more often if nothing goes well then it is manifested by their refusing to eat, sleep late, spend time on the pc, watching tv for hours on end. Some end up with bulimia or anorexia both of which are attributed to teenage ailments. It will be well nigh impossible to get out of this unless help is sought on time. Parents need to keep a vigil on their teenage children constantly.
They are now on the threshold of making choices - the line they need to pursue for their future and the choices are several. They are confused more when parents impose their ambitions on their children. A wrong step taken will have disastrous consequences leading to depression and once again psychiatric help would have to be resorted to. If the parents are not doing well financially this again becomes a stumbling block to pursue their ambitions leading to further stress.
Once a choice is made, they would have to leave their home and get into a hostel which invariably is the case as very rarely would one get entry into colleges in the same vicinity as their residence. Here comes one more situation they would have to cope with. New surroundings, improper living conditions, bad food and they would now have to fend for themselves for which earlier they depended on their parents.
If they get proper companions they would truly be blessed but this is more an exception than a rule and here again they would have to cope and learn to adjust also taking care not to get influenced by the peers who may be into some bad habits.
However, with proper approach a teenager could easily overcome these obstacles and problems. Counseling should start way ahead of these problems making their presence. Both the school administration and the parents should get together and discuss the situation clearly and come to a conclusion as to the problem area of a particular child and how best he/she could handle it.
Both parents and the school administration need to keep a vigil on the children as this is the formative age and if not handled properly things can go haywire. In this competitive world a teenager has to struggle to make his/her life successful and therefore with proper encouragement from both the parents and the school administration, a child could come out of this situation unscathed.
More often peer pressure takes precedence over whatever advice parents or the school administration offers and this is the most worrying situation as it may not be the best advice. Weaning the child away from such influences is a difficult task but with effort this could be achieved.
With everyone rallying round the child and making it feel that he/she is loved no matter what mistakes he/she would make is good enough for the child to get out of any stress he/she would be under as love conquers all.
Till the teenager takes the right step and in the right direction there is no doubt a lot of stress will be around not only for the teenager but more for the parents as often due to several reasons things do not work out the way one wants them to. Changing the course of action could perhaps show the way but under all circumstances parents should not buckle down no matter what the pressure and with the support of the parents a teenager can wade through thick and thin
Withdrawal is the most common symptom and this is the time when one develops complexes, living in a fool's paradise or a fantasy world are all symptoms of stress that a teenager manifests. Day dreaming is yet another symptom which stops them from performing well in school/college.
You will find them spending a lot of time in front of the mirror, and even in the bathroom.
They will feel awkward going out with their parents and seek the company of the opposite sex.
In the process of this changed behavior its fine if all goes well but more often if nothing goes well then it is manifested by their refusing to eat, sleep late, spend time on the pc, watching tv for hours on end. Some end up with bulimia or anorexia both of which are attributed to teenage ailments. It will be well nigh impossible to get out of this unless help is sought on time. Parents need to keep a vigil on their teenage children constantly.
They are now on the threshold of making choices - the line they need to pursue for their future and the choices are several. They are confused more when parents impose their ambitions on their children. A wrong step taken will have disastrous consequences leading to depression and once again psychiatric help would have to be resorted to. If the parents are not doing well financially this again becomes a stumbling block to pursue their ambitions leading to further stress.
Once a choice is made, they would have to leave their home and get into a hostel which invariably is the case as very rarely would one get entry into colleges in the same vicinity as their residence. Here comes one more situation they would have to cope with. New surroundings, improper living conditions, bad food and they would now have to fend for themselves for which earlier they depended on their parents.
If they get proper companions they would truly be blessed but this is more an exception than a rule and here again they would have to cope and learn to adjust also taking care not to get influenced by the peers who may be into some bad habits.
However, with proper approach a teenager could easily overcome these obstacles and problems. Counseling should start way ahead of these problems making their presence. Both the school administration and the parents should get together and discuss the situation clearly and come to a conclusion as to the problem area of a particular child and how best he/she could handle it.
Both parents and the school administration need to keep a vigil on the children as this is the formative age and if not handled properly things can go haywire. In this competitive world a teenager has to struggle to make his/her life successful and therefore with proper encouragement from both the parents and the school administration, a child could come out of this situation unscathed.
More often peer pressure takes precedence over whatever advice parents or the school administration offers and this is the most worrying situation as it may not be the best advice. Weaning the child away from such influences is a difficult task but with effort this could be achieved.
With everyone rallying round the child and making it feel that he/she is loved no matter what mistakes he/she would make is good enough for the child to get out of any stress he/she would be under as love conquers all.
Till the teenager takes the right step and in the right direction there is no doubt a lot of stress will be around not only for the teenager but more for the parents as often due to several reasons things do not work out the way one wants them to. Changing the course of action could perhaps show the way but under all circumstances parents should not buckle down no matter what the pressure and with the support of the parents a teenager can wade through thick and thin
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